Becoming parents and creating a family is one of the achievements that some couples consider as their ultimate step to reach happiness or fulfillment. Any mother you ask would tell you how much she loves her children, how life has changed since they arrived in her life despite the tantrums or toys they occasionally throw.
Motherhood does not begin after the childbirth, but since the child has been conceived and starts developing in the womb. The emotional connection between the mother and the child begins from the first signals of pregnancy, from the first moment a woman finds out that someone will soon call her “mommy”.
Also known as the spontaneous abortion, a miscarriage is the natural death of the fetus before it is able to survive independently in the womb. However, speaking from an emotional standpoint, a miscarriage is the loss of a beloved child whom a mother will never meet. As dramatic as it may sound, this is the thought or the feeling that most women experience when their pregnancy does not develop. All the joy and happiness are instantly replaced with sadness or anxiety.
Although miscarriages are considered common early pregnancy complications, the experience of such trauma can emotionally affect a woman. Depending on the stage of the pregnancy and process of the abortion, a woman could also develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). As a matter of fact, research suggests that 40% of women who miscarried suffer from PTSD and as such, they seek professional treatment. (If interested to read a true story on the emotional impact of a miscarriage, please read Kate Evan’s article “Miscarriage: The Loneliest Grief of All“)
Doctors, nurses or family members would try to offer their best emotional support and reassure the woman that there are more opportunities to conceive or that nature sometimes can play tricks, but while words of comfort are benevolent, the suffering does not disappear within days. Doubt, worry and unanswered questions run through a woman’s mind as she tries to balance her emotions. When a miscarriage occurs, most women tend to judge themselves thinking that they must have done something to cause the abortion, such as eating the wrong food or performing difficult activities. Thus, sense of guilt is another emotion that deepens the sadness and the despair.
The causes of a miscarriage are not always clear and not necessarily a result of one’s actions. although there may be some health issues that could affect the development of the fetus:
- Ovarian cyst
- Uterine & hormonal abnormalities
- Immune system responses
- Medical conditions (i.e. diabetes, thyroid, etc)
This is why it would be worth undergoing medical investigation before conceiving in order to begin a possible treatment if necessary and as such, reduce the risk of early pregnancy miscarriage. Additionally, boost your metabolism through a detox diet and a healthier lifestyle as it will benefit your fertility and provide your body with the essential nutrients to support the pregnancy.
If you have experienced a miscarriage, do not be disheartened! There are available support and steps you could follow that will increase your fertility.